Monday, August 29, 2011

family has nothing to do with dna


My Ulsan Family
"축하합니다 우리가족된것을" -Congratulations to become our family member

This is what Da Bin's dad texted me right when I sitting next to him and just gave him my phone number. It almost brought tears to my eyes.

Because even when I know I have the most wonderful family and my whole adoption situation is sticky, a girl can't help but feel some sort of rejection when her own blood relative won't meet her. 

I've been to Ulsan 3 times now to meet my friend Da Bin (she goes to UW Lax) and her family and friends.  They always make me feel so welcome, even though I am a complete stranger.  Right away, her family told me I am welcome anytime to stay at their place in Ulsan, even after Da Bin goes back to Wisconsin.  Da Bin's aunt has cooked some wonderful home made Korean meals for me.  Her grandma cannot speak English so she simply says "선미, 사랑해" - which translates to Seon Mee (my Korean name), I love you.  They invited me for their Korean thanksgiving in 2 weeks. And in Da Bin's dad's broken English that I can strangely understand, he tells me I'm a new family member, welcome.

After my saddening week and disappointment and missing my family in the Midwest so much, it was the most beautiful thing - to have a family that I have no blood relation to, open me with welcome arms. And I can erase my view that Koreans have so much Confucianism roots that they only believe in blood and dna family bonds.  No, I am simply a friend of their daughter and it is enough for them to welcome me into their family.

In the absence of being with MY family and losing the chance to meet biological family, God sent these wonderful people to my life and I am so, so thankful.



Sunday, August 7, 2011

Seoul Vacation Part II

Sunday, 7/31

After church and dinner, I found my way to my hostel in Hongdae.  Here's a link: http://bebop-guesthouse.com/ .  I paid $22/night to stay in a 4 person room.  It was the college dorm type atmosphere and the owners are really nice.  I HIGHLY recommend this place!

Anyhow...thank GOD for iPhone/pod apps and wifi - and bartenders with cell phones.  My friend Alex who I went elementary school-college with and was roommates for a year was in Korea with 5 other WI people on their layover from China.  I was able to get ahold of Alex through the Textfree app (if you have an apple product, this lets you get a local number from the area code you want and you can text people for free on their cell.  Thank you Lauren Arendt for the suggestion ^ ^ ) and he called me from the bartender's phone and told me to meet them at a bar.  After needing to ask for a lot more directions, I finally got there.  I was sooo happy to see my friend!! We spent the night exploring Hongdae, talking, discussing interesting China stories, and getting rejected from entry to a club because the guys had sandals on : /

Me and Alex
Monday, 8/1

The next day my group headed to the Insadong area to visit a traditional market.  We all found some souvenirs and good Korean food but the most interesting find.....

you can laugh. yes, Koreans eat dog.
  Later we headed to Itaewon which is known as the foreigner area of Seoul.  What we also didn't know (well I think Alex did) is that Itaewon is also the SKETCHY area of Seoul.  Example A - if you walk down the wrong street...good thing I was with 4 big WI guys.

transgender hookers. yup. SCARY!!!
Anyhow, we found some decent normal places to drink in Itaewon and had a good time.  I also got to say good-bye to my friend Jess who I met at Mudfest.  It was so great to meet her and I wish her the best of luck as she starts grad school in London. Hmm, I have an excuse to go to Europe now!!!

Jessica and Me
Tuesday, 8/2

We were all pretty tired out the next morning but started the day off with screen golfing.  These things are all over Korea.  The guys had fun hitting balls and even convinced me and my Malaysian roommate to try it out.  The guys were also to see Gatorade in a can...but I guess it looked better than it tasted.

screen golfing group

happy men to have an american sports drink
check out our golf swings!

Later we all wanted to go somewhere but more relaxing so I took my friend Don's advice and suggested that we go to Cheonggyecheon River walk.  It was really peaceful and beautiful there and we finally got some good pictures there.

Cheonggyecheon River

Me and the UW Madison Med/Pharm students

Just two Port people in Korea : )

Alex really wanted a city view of Seoul to get a picture so I asked a friend living in Seoul and she suggested the Namsan (North Seoul) Tower.  It was such a gorgeous view.

Seoul Skyline

Namsan Tower=Korea's Space Needle??
Wednesday, 8/3

The next morning, the group had to leave really early to go back to WI so I got up before 6:30 to say good-bye.  It was sooooo hard!  I had so much fun with these guys and wished they could have stayed longer.  They really made my vacation amazing!

Later I met Hyunwoo in the Sincheon area and we visited a palace and this really pretty area called Samcheon that had many cute cafes, restaurants, shops and traditional Korean houses called hanoks.  It was good to catch up with Hyunwoo since even though we live close to each other, we are both so busy!

me and hyunwoo at Gyeongbokgong Palace


Thursday-Friday, 8/4-5

I made my way back to Gumi and I was definitely ready for some sleep and just bumming around and relaxing and skyping.  And that is what I have been doing since then.  ABSOLUTELY NOTHING...and it is wonderful.

Saturday, 8/6 [happy birthday mom!]

Ok, I lied.  The last 4 days of my vacation have been spent skyping. And figuring out scary, confusing, risky situations.  And coming to the realization that it's best to seize the moment while you can, stop overthinking things and just do what makes you happy. I was right all along...after 2.5 years of being single, I would finally meet someone right before leaving for Korea.  But it was worth the wait and it's worth the long distance.  I've had some really beautiful examples of making long distance relationships work in my life thanks to family and friends....so if they can do it, I may as well give it a try too.

So as of Saturday, I can officially say that this lady is off the market and has a boyfriend...I am one happy girl and it was the best way to end my summer vacation : )

me & bob - i think after spending the rest of my $1000 bar tab @ A house..

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Seoul Vacation Part I

Most of Samsung (and the rest of Korea) goes on vacation for the summer during one time and this applies to teachers as well so lucky me got to end a long work month with a nice paid vacation : ) I got to do lots of fun things so here's a recap:


Thursday, 7/28
Korean Pizza Hut

I still had to teach my GLA class for 3 hours but it was so nice to sleep in until 7am.  I never thought 7 am would be sleeping in but really, it is a luxury.  Then after class, I decided to take myself on a date for pizza and a movie.  Korean Dominoes was pretty good so I decided to give Korean Pizza Hut a try.  It was okay...but at least there was no corn on this pizza.  Then I went to Lotte Cinema to finally see Harry Potter. I do have to say Korea definitely has a one up on American movies theaters because they have the best, fresh kettle corn in addition to the buttery kind.

Friday, 7/29

It was the last day of GLA camp and I had to be at work almost the whole day.  I was definitely a little sad that I wouldn't get to see these guys everyday but gosh, I was a pretty darn proud teacher seeing these guys give their speeches.

Me and the top 4: Joshua, Andrew, Jason & Peter
M1104 in Gumi
After work, I decided to hunt down a burger joint another Samsung teacher told me about and it was really easy to find called M1104. 
I have to say, this place gives American burgers a run for their money. I had an amazing Bacon, Egg and Cheese burger and will be visiting this place a lot when I have a burger craving.
Then I did my usual and went to a coffee house to relax and have my new favorite, affogato - ice cream and espresso.
affogato

Saturday, 7/30
It was finally time to leave for Seoul.  I was really nervous to book the bus ticket and manage to find my way to the hotel in a city of 10 million but I did just fine.  I stayed in the Gangnam area which is the business district of Seoul and the most expensive area...thank God for discount websites because I got a room for less than half price!  My hotel was really close to Coex, a cool underground shopping mall so I headed there. My best finds there?? English novels, Mexican food and (sadly) a new purse since my favorite purse my mom got me has finally ripped and died : (


Sunday, 7/31

Sunday I met my Korean pastor from Lax, Pastor John and went to church in Incheon.  He brought along another pastor from the US, Pastor Holley.  I also met a girl named Onnori who helped translate for me when I gave my testimony at church.  It reminded me a lot of being at church in WI.


to be continued...